May 17

FREE RESOURCE for youth ministers… preparing to discuss 13 Reasons Why, season 2 (Netflix)

NOTE: This is a guest post from Tracie Dahl, LCPC, Middle School Therapist with Intermountain School-based Services (Helena, MT). It has been edited for use in a church setting by Chaplain Chris Haughee.


13 Reasons Why is about to drop its second season on May 18th. Since Season 2 is no longer adapting Jay Asher’s 2007 YA novel and telling a completely new story, as those who work with young adults, it would be best to know what you can expect from the upcoming string of episodes. Most people working with youth were more reactive than proactive when Season 1 came out… and it’s easier to be more proactive whenever possible! Knowing what may be coming is part of that process.


(c) Netflix, 13 Reasons Why

While a big part of the new season is still under wraps, we’ve gotten a few details of what is coming our way on May 18:

1. No More Suicide

While Season 1 dealt with a number of hot-button issues, at its core, it was about teen suicide and how that might affect a community. Moving forward, showrunner Brian Yorkey confirmed that the new season will not depict suicide onscreen or off at all, although he did clarify that Hannah Baker’s death does continue to be a central part of the story.

2. A New Theme: Sexual Abuse

Yorkey also revealed that with the story of Hannah’s suicide having been told, Season 2 will focus on a brand-new controversy: sexual assault at a high school. The first season included two harrowing instances of sexual assault, as it was revealed that school jock Bryce Walker raped both Hannah Baker and Jessica Davis, and both of these women’s stories will continue into Season 2. The new season will expand on the topic, focusing on a case of serial sexual assault perpetrated by one of the school’s athletic teams. It will also follow Jessica Davis’ story of going from victim to survivor.

3. Bryce’s Just Desserts

One of the most frustrating parts of Season 1 was knowing what Bryce did but never seeing him have to pay for his actions. Given the theme of Season 2 and a hint from Netflix last summer that “Bryce will hopefully get what’s coming to him,” we may finally see Bryce face justice.

4. The Bakers Are Suing The School

The fallout from Hannah’s suicide is still very much a driving force in the new season, and Yorkey said that there will be a legal trial that lasts throughout the second season that is pivotal in unraveling a new mystery. The trial is the result of Hannah’s parents suing Liberty High School after they have finally heard their daughter’s suicide tapes.

5. Polaroids Instead Of Cassette Tapes

Last year, Brian Yorkey teased that Season 2 would employ “a different sort of analog technology” from the cassette tapes at the heart of the first season, and the recently released teaser trailer for Season 2 made it very clear what that analog tech would be: Polaroids. Apparently, a series of ominous Polaroids will provide characters with important details about Hannah or about the high school’s sexual assault outbreak, and the mystery surrounding them will be a huge part of Season 2.

6. There Is A New Narrator

With Hannah’s suicide taking a backseat in the new season, Netflix has confirmed a different character is taking over the narration duties for Season 2. Although the identity of the new narrator has not yet been revealed, there seem to be two clear standouts as the top possibilities:

  • Jessica Davis — Given the season’s focus on sexual assault, it seems likely that the show will follow Jessica’s story most closely of all.
  • Tyler Down — Hannah narrated Season 1 through her cassette tapes, and now that Polaroid photos are the new form of communication in Season 2, it clearly points to resident photographer Tyler as the new narrator, right?

7. Meet The New Characters

With a new mystery and theme, we are also going to meet a ton of new characters in season 2. These include:

  • Chloe, a popular cheerleader (played by Anne Winters).
  • Cyrus, a rebellious teen who becomes a champion for the downtrodden (played by Bryce Cass).
  • Mackenzie, Cyrus’ outspoken sister (played by Chelsea Alden).
  • Sonya, an ambitious young lawyer (played by Allison Miller).
  • Nina, a track star at Liberty High who’s hiding a secret (played by Samantha Logan).
  • Jackie, an advocate for victims of bullying (played by Kelli O’Hara).
  • Rick, Liberty High’s beloved basketball coach (played by Ben Lawson).

8. Hannah Is In It

Even though Season 1 was all about her death, Hannah Baker actually will appear in Season 2. This is possible through flashbacks to when Hannah was still alive, which were also a big part of the first season. It is rumored that we will be seeing a “very different Hannah” in the new season.

9. Answers To Pressing Questions

We will learn answers to all the questions left at the end of season 1. We will finally learn more about Alex’s suicide attempt, and why Tyler has that secret stash of firearms in his room, and what Mr. Porter is going to do with Hannah’s tapes.

Season 2 of 13 Reasons Why will premiere on Netflix on May 18.


What you can do as a youth minister or church to support children in your community that will be drawn to watching and discussing 13 Reasons Why, season 2:


Approach others that work with youth in your community. For instance, at one of Helena’s middle schools, teachers and counselors are reviewing and revising our procedures for sexual assault disclosure and response to ensure the most empathetic and effective response possible for survivors who may relate to characters on 13 Reasons Why and therefore come forward with their own disclosures of assault and/or sexual abuse.

The following is a brief synopsis of highlights of some of the things discussed in that school by providers… guidelines that are also helpful in youth groups and after-school church groups where children and teens gather!


Sexual assault disclosures:

  1. Believe the survivor (research shows that how a disclosure is responded to not only helps in not re-traumatizing the survivor but is also a major factor in treatment and recovery)
  2. The survivor chose you for a reason. Stay with them and do not ask them to go to/tell someone else.
  3. Notify school admin and/or the school resource officer at the child’s school.
  4. Administration and/or the school grade level counselor can help with providing direction.
  5. Listen and do not ask questions other than to assess for immediate safety and to determine the relationship of the perpetrator to the survivor
  6. Perpetrators who are family members need to be reported to CPS (Child Protective Services). If you need help making the report, ask school administration, school grade level counselor, or a therapist.
  7. A safe adult support person (parent or guardian) will need to be notified – administration or the school grade level counselor can help with this.

It is helpful to use the term survivor instead of victim. Start now with helping to empower those who have been victimized to see themselves as survivors NOT victims. How we respond and help to shape the cognitive processes makes a big difference.


May 15

From Covenant Companion: “Helping Kids Heal,” 5 Minutes with Chris Haughee

Five Minutes with Chris Haughee: Helping Kids Heal

By Guest AuthorApril 16, 2018

Chris Haughee is a Covenant chaplain working at Intermountain Residential, an intensive residential program for children who demonstrate behavioral challenges with campuses in Helena and Kalispell, Montana. Chris and his family attend Headwaters Covenant Church in Helena.

Who are the children you serve at Intermountain?

They may be as young as four years old and as old as thirteen. We can house up to forty children and youth in cottages on our two campuses—for an average stay of fifteen months. Our staff consists
of therapists, educators, nurses, and case managers, as well as a psychiatrist. I serve as the chaplain on staff in Helena.

What kind of situation brings a child to Intermountain?

All of our kids have pretty complex mental health diagnoses. We see a lot of PTSD as a result of significant trauma in their past. Some kids are on the autism spectrum with sensory processing issues. Sometimes they’ve been identified by the symptoms of their trauma, whether that’s ADHD or oppositional defiant disorder—there’s a whole bag of diagnoses that are necessary to guide treatment, but ultimately early childhood trauma lies at the root of their challenges.

A number of our referrals come from school districts—from educational consultants in California and other states. Sometimes we receive kids from the foster care system because facilities or families do not have the training or support in place to help care for a severely emotionally disturbed child. We also have quite a few kids who reached a certain developmental stage and some kind of mental health issue was identified that their parents were unprepared to deal with. The families are looking for help to learn how to parent their child and get them back home.

Sometimes a child’s behavior in school and at home reaches the point where the parents genuinely can’t help them, and they call 911 because their child threatens violence or injury to him- or herself or others. The kids are hurting and struggling so much that they just keep amping up their behavior as a way of saying “I need help.” When parents are afraid for their kid’s safety, Intermountain can help.

As chaplain, what kind of activities or interactions do you have with the clients?

My role with the family starts the day a parent brings their child to us. From day one, my work is to come alongside the parents and reassure them. I learn about their faith tradition if they have one. Our program is based on a nondenominational Christian perspective. Within that framework we feel called to meet the family wherever they are. Sometimes families are experiencing a crisis of faith. Some children have had no exposure to any faith background. I come alongside all of those families.

We have chapel on Tuesday afternoons from 4 to 5, so I see the kids in that setting once a week. Chapel is like a vacation Bible school where we sing songs and play games and have snacks—it’s fun, so most of the time the kids are pretty jazzed to see me. We also have discussion time where we talk about spiritual themes that connect to their treatment. In that context we focus on relationship—loving God, loving our neighbor, and especially loving ourselves. Kids are working on all three areas through their treatment.

The rest of the week I try to make time to be at meals or spend time in the classroom with them. Sometimes they need somebody to talk to who is not a therapist or a direct care worker that is making them talk about their difficult feelings and relationship issues.

How do you connect with caregivers or parents while their child is at Intermountain?

We do weekly family therapies, so we try to video chat or talk on the phone with parents who live far away. Most of the time I am not directly involved with family therapies, but can participate at the invitation of the therapist or family when spiritual issues are involved. We also have an onsite apartment that families can use when they come to visit. We do quarterly trainings for parents on campus, which is a chance for them to talk with other parents and understand that someone else shares their experience. We also invite parents to come see their kids participate in a program at our school. For some of them, it’s the first time their child has been able to successfully participate in something like that.

The kids we serve have learned to survive a chaotic internal (and in some cases, external) life. At Intermountain, we offer them hope for a new path. We come alongside parents to help them learn ways to parent their children in a nonjudgmental and compassionate way.

How did you end up doing this work?

I was in between calls, having served as associate pastor in Helena at a Presbyterian church. I wasn’t sure what I would do next, and then I heard about this position from my predecessor, Dana Holzer. At the time I knew that Intermountain existed in my own backyard, but I didn’t know much about the ministry. 

After I began this work, we also became clients of Intermountain. My six-year-old son, whom we had adopted when he was eighteen months old, began to display some significant emotional and behavioral challenges as a result of trauma experienced in his first few months of life. He entered Intermountain’s residential program for fourteen months.

Through our family’s experience, I learned how to empathize with parents who find themselves in a similar situation in a completely different way. I get what it’s like to try to care for your child and provide for them but what you’re doing isn’t working. Through his stay my son learned some ways to break out of negative and destructive patterns. He started to engage his trauma history and gain ownership of his story, including his abandonment as a baby. He has begun to really see what an amazing kid he is. While there is plenty of work ahead for us as a family, we are grateful for the healing work God has done in our son and our family through Intermountain.

Apr 30

“I stay near the pit” a poem written for the dedication of Van Orsdel Commons and chapel

I stay near the pit

(inspired by Rev. Samuel Shoemaker’s poem, “I Stand by the Door,” and Psalm 40)

© Chris Haughee, 2018. All rights reserved.


I stay near the pit.

My cry was heard and I was lifted from it.

And while my feet are steady on the Rock and the path is laid straight before me

I was not alone in that pit.

There were many others with me, stuck in that mire.

So, I stay near the pit.


I had tried for a long time—such a long, long time—

to make my way out,

to find myself planted firm on that rock.

That Rock in whom I now put my trust.

Yes, I tried to find my way out on my own…


But steep are the slopes and slick the sides that surround the pit

Dark with self-centeredness, with self-hatred, with fear and shame.

I had almost given up my trying, given up my crying, when someone heard.

Yes, my cry was heard.


And it turned out the ears of the Lord took the shape of a friend

And the hands that lifted me out came not from heaven, but from those Heaven sent.

They lifted me out, pulled me clear and helped me clean up.

It turns out that they, too, had just been freed from the pit

and felt compelled to help… me.

They pointed the way to the horizon, a path laid out upon the Rock.

They beckoned me, “Come!” as they started on their way.

But something made me pause. So,

I stay near the pit.


It is a miraculous thing, this difference between the Rock and the pit

And it is a glory to be saved from destruction and shame.

To stand in the light and know you are loved…

Loved by the One who calls from the horizon.


I understand the motivation of those who started down the path

Leaving the pit far behind them.

Drawn forward by Love, urged on to know who they are

Know whose they are.


I, too, am compelled by Love.

Not to start down that path, but to linger still.

For love of those still in the pit.

So I stay near the pit.

Run freely the paths of God’s great law, fellow saints!

Revel in the joy of being free, being alive.

With ecstasy, I too have skipped down that road.

The sun on my back.

A new song in my mouth.


But as the volume of that praise arose

The sounds from the pit and the cries of those

Still stuck, still hurting, still without hope…

Grew fainter, and fainter still… nearly silent

Drowned out by the chorus of pilgrims and their singing

So I withdrew

I returned

And I stayed near the pit.


I remember that first time

That first cry that I heard

Calling not for me, but for someone… anyone.

Fearfully I went near the pit

dark with the memories of my past, my guilt, my pain

But a companion to that fear was a Love that compelled me

A love I recognized in the faces of those that pulled me free.

So I came nearer the edge and I looked into the darkness

For the one who was calling—screaming, really…

And I was not prepared for what came next

It became my reason,

The reason I stay near the pit.


As the cry grew louder

my front foot slipped on the sludge near the edge

So I got on my knees and leaned forward to reach

What was it? Could I make it out in the dark?

Yes… a hand! But not any hand…

The hand of a child.

I reached out and grabbed hold…

For this reason I had remained near the pit.


This frightened child at first feared my grasp and

Scratched, bit, and clawed to free herself

All the time crying and wailing, covered in filth

She did not—could not—know that Heaven had sent me

Just as One had once been sent for me!

So I held on through the pain and pulled her free.

Free from the pit, she wept. We wept. And,

Exhausted, together, we stayed near the pit.


In the midst of that struggle, another miracle took place.

Gathered round us, drawn in by the girl’s cries,

Was huddled a group of others.

They, too, had been pulled from the pit… yet stayed near.

Drawn as I was, it turned out, to help—

If not many, at least one.

And send these little least ones on their way…

Down the path toward healing, toward wholeness.

So we sent this young girl off to the horizon.

But we—these new friends and I—

We stayed near the pit.


And here we are together—you and I—

And our tribe has grown as have the years.

Some we have lost. Not every tale a triumph.

More than a few have gone on, past the horizon.

But new friends have come…

They, too, having heard the cries.

We stay near the pit.


And it is here that we do this messy,


difficult work together.

We stay near the pit.

Yes, “He drew me up from the pit… set my feet upon a rock,”

So, in honor and praise…

I stay near the pit.



Apr 27

Flashback Friday: A trauma-informed reading of Cain and Abel

NOTE: Having spent a good portion of the last year focusing on trauma-informed ministry interventions, trainings, and writing resilience-based curriculum, I was drawn back to this post from April 2017. I hope you enjoy this “flashback!” –Chaplain Chris

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Maybe you are familiar with the story of Cain and Abel?

It’s hard to think of a Bible story that has more potential triggers for retraumatization or difficult feelings for children from hard places and circumstances than this story of jealousy, murder, and judgment!

As the story goes, the first family is living out its existence after mom and dad (Eve and Adam) have been kicked out of the Garden of Eden. The family is small… just two sons at this point: Cain and Abel. Abel tends flocks while Cain works the soil.

When it comes time to thank God for the fruit of their labors, Cain gives some of his crop, while Abel provides a “first-fruit”: the best cuts of meat from the firstborn of his flock. God is pleased with Abel’s gift, but not Cain’s. Cain gets jealous, burns with anger toward his little brother, and eventually leads him out into the fields and kills him.

God addresses Cain and asks about Abel, to which Cain replies infamously: “How should I know? Am I my brother’s keeper?” Cain has not only murdered his brother, but now he’s trying to lie to God about it!

As a result, God “punishes” Cain by driving him away from his fields and family and he must make his way from now on by being a hunter and gatherer.

Not the most “trauma sensitive” story to tell to children 6-13 who have experienced their fair share of difficulty in their lives… or so I thought at first. But, putting this story through the lens of “trauma-informed ministry,” I believe I unearthed a truth that deepened my faith and allowed the children and staff to connect to God and this story in a new way. I’ll explain in just a bit. First, a word about retraumatization.

a child draws a picture of a traumatic event

a child draws a picture of a traumatic event

Retraumatization happens when a person is “triggered” by something or someone in their environment that takes them back to a previous experience of trauma. It is not merely reminding them of the trauma, they physically re-experience their trauma as if it were happening again–right at that moment. It happens as much to children and youth who have experienced adversity in childhood (ACEs) as it does to combat veterans. It’s not an uncommon experience among the clientele that Intermountain works with. So… why this talk of retraumatization?

Well, it’s my conviction that God is “trauma-informed,” and what I had seen for over four decades as God’s punishment of Cain was actually an act of mercy! Here’s how I explained it to the children in chapel…

I asked all those who had ever done something really bad or had something really bad happen to them in a certain place to raise their hand if it was hard for them to return to that place because it made them relive the experience in their minds and hearts?

     EVERY HAND WENT UP… even those of our staff.

Then, I asked the children to put themselves in Cain’s position. He’s done something that

would you like to be known by others as the worst version of yourself?

would you like to be known by others as the worst version of yourself?

he is ashamed of. It’s so bad, he thinks he can hide it from God… hide it from himself. But, day after day he’d try and carry on working the field and doing what he knows how to do–plant and grow crops. All the while, he is working the same ground he buried his brother in! God points this out and shows Cain what he is doing is going to keep retraumatizing him: “You brother’s blood cries out from the ground!” Can you imagine a worse punishment than being forced to stay in that place for the rest of his life? Can you imagine God “rubbing his nose” in it by making Cain continue his life as a farmer?

So, what I saw (and had been taught to see!) as punishment was God’s grace… God forced Cain to leave what was familiar to lead a new life. He had to leave the fields in which he buried his brother and learn new skills and a new way of life.

It bears repeating, because it is at odds with our nature and how we often view God… God wasn’t punishing him, but instead giving Cain a chance to redefine himself as something other than a farmer who had murdered his brother!

Horrible things happen every day. Bad things happen to us and we have, perhaps, done our fair share of bad things. God’s grace means we don’t have to stay stuck there. We should stop retraumatizing ourselves by reliving our worst moments. None of us deserves to be known as the worst version of ourselves, and that is CERTAINLY not what God sees when he looks at us. God sees a son or daughter he desperately loves.

It was a message I needed to hear as much as our children. Perhaps you needed to hear it, too?

Apr 19

Intermountain moment: when a child engages in self-harm or other scary behaviors

Cutting. Self-harm. It is a phenomenon much more common (it seems) today than twenty-two years ago when I entered children’s and youth ministry. It’s certainly not uncommon behavior in the emotionally disturbed children that Intermountain works with. That’s why I felt it was important to share a little with you from a conversation I had with Joelle Johnson, formerly of Intermountain’s Community-based Services.

We agreed that whether it’s cutting, suicidal thoughts or an eating disorder, these “extreme” behaviors can send parents, youth leaders, and churches spinning to try and figure out the best way to address the needs being expressed. I’d like to share with you a few thoughts, and I hope you view the video in this post and share with others who might also need some direction or encouragement.



First, if your child or a child you are working with is engaged in self-harm, it’s important to realize that this is a form of communication. Sometimes the message is as simple as “I need control, and this is something I can control.” Cutting and self-harm is a way of expressing something that is difficult to express.

“The Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans.” Romans 8:26

Second, it’s important to get help and to not shame the child for these behaviors. I often tell the groups I speak to that we ALL have coping mechanisms. While it may sound strange to you, self-harming behaviors are a coping mechanism! While some coping behaviors are more socially acceptable than others, the answer is to replacing an unhealthy behavior is find a healthy alternative. A licensed therapist or counselor would be an excellent resource for helping the self-harming child get at the root feelings that need to be expressed in a healthier way, AND identifying what a better alternative might be.

Lastly, think about the culture of the home, church, or youth group that this child is a part of. Has the expectation been set that a child can come with any issue and be unconditionally loved? Is authenticity and openness an expressed value that the child can see lived out by the adult role models around them? If so, it is much more likely that a child or teen will feel open, once they are ready, to share those difficult feelings and emotions that they once felt could only be controlled or expressed through self-harm.

Apr 09

Welcoming Courtney Into Our Family

Note: The following article was written last summer by a partner in ministry, Rabbi Chaim Bruk. He is an excellent resource for our Jewish children in residence at Intermountain and is an advocate for foster care and adoption within faith communities. Rabbi Chaim Bruk is executive director of Chabad Lubavitch of Montana and spiritual leader of The Shul of Bozeman. He can be reached at The article below was originally published at: It appears here at the author’s permission. – Chaplain Chris


Welcoming Courtney Into Our Family

By Rabbi Chaim Bruk on 13 Tammuz 5777 – July 7, 2017


If you have a beating heart, the images of families floating across the Mediterranean, hoping to survive, are sure to make you cry.

It’s gut wrenching to know that in the era of Facebook, FaceTime, Instagram and Twitter, humanity is still capable of sitting on the sidelines as so many children are slaughtered, maimed, and exiled from their homes.

I have no doubt my fellow Americans are truly bothered when seeing such horrific images.

But what about the “refugee” down the block? What about your child’s classmate who’s too hungry to do his or her homework? What about the child here in Bozeman, Montana who has never had a well visit with a pediatrician or a dental check up and doesn’t know if a drunk “parent” is going to wake up in time to serve them breakfast?

Merriam-Webster defines “refugee” as “one who flees; especially a person who flees to a foreign country or power to escape danger or persecution.”

But shouldn’t the definition be broadened to someone seeking refuge – period?

According to government statistics, on an average day in the United States more than 100,000 foster-care children are yearning to be adopted. Is this not a refugee crisis within our own borders?

As an adoptive father of four, I am keenly aware of how challenging it can be to meet the needs of these children. I don’t expect every American to foster or adopt children. But shouldn’t the “Welcome Refugees” sign be held high not only at our nation’s airports but in our local communities as well? Wouldn’t it be noble and merciful if we were to hold up signs saying “Welcome Johnny from Down the Block” or “No One Chooses to Be a Refugee, Including Maya from Butte, America”?

Last August a lovely 12-year-old girl, Courtney, joined our Gan Israel summer camp in Bozeman. Her mom died tragically when little Courtney was five years old and her dad, who loved her a lot, didn’t raise her with the stability that each precious child deserves.

With the encouragement of her beloved grammie, she spent two weeks in our home and loved her time here. But she was unhappy upon returning to her everyday living situation, and the question arose: Should we take her in as our own?

Chavie and I had adopted three babies, but a pre-teen? Unlike babies, they come with “baggage” that affects their every day, their every thought, their every emotion.

Courtney was placed by God at our doorstep and we needed to answer God’s call. I know God would have understood had we said, “Sorry, we just can’t. We aren’t cut out for this.”

But how could we?

Rabbi Chaim Bruk with Courtney

Rabbi Chaim Bruk with Courtney

We said yes.

On Thursday, September 1, 2016, Courtney – AKA Shoshana, which means Rose in Hebrew – joined our family. Her adoption has now been finalized. She’s an amazing, talented, smart, and fun young woman and she will undoubtedly grow to boundless heights.

Does that mean she’s always easy? Not in the slightest. Are any girls her age easy?

Does she have a lot to repair internally? She would be the first to say so.

But does she have a glowing soul that is in love with Judaism and is she a remarkable older sister to Chaya, Zeesy, and Menny? You bet!

I know that, like our Shoshana, there are so many gem-like souls out there who need a loving, nurturing, and non-abusive home. They don’t always scream for help, because so often they are certain no one is listening.

May God bless all the Courtneys of the United States to find parents who view them as the Shoshanas they are.

Don’t ever give up.

Mar 26

Becoming a church that welcomes ALL children – an Intermountain Moment

The most crucial and necessary first step to becoming a church that welcomes children with emotional disturbance from past trauma is to adopt an attitude of humility. It’s the humility that asks, “What must have happened to that child?” or “I wonder what I might have done to cause this child to react that way?” These are MUCH better questions to have going on internally than “What is WRONG with that child?” or “Why can’t that child behave?”

Behavior is a form of communication. Does that behavior sometimes communicate that stronger guidance, structure, and discipline is needed? Absolutely. But, what if that behavior, especially that troubling behavior that we’d rather not deal with, is communicating this message: “I have been hurt. I have a hard time trusting you. I think you might hurt me. I am frightened?”

At Intermountain, we’d love to help you and our congregation explore what it would mean to intentionally embrace children and families that are working through difficulties around attachment, emotional disturbance, or mental health. Not sure where to start? Get a hold of us and we’ll discover together what makes the most sense in your ministry context!


Mar 14

A MUST HAVE for your church library, Mental Health and the Church by Dr. Stephen Grcevich

I was invited to be a part of the “Book Launch Team” for a new resource for churches that I think is invaluable for any ministry considering outreach to those that struggle with mental health issues. In Montana, where the need is great and services are often lacking, the Church has a great opportunity to be a positive agent for change. As your partner in ministry, I could not recommend this book more highly. –Chris Haughee, chaplain.


In my role as the chaplain to severely emotionally disturbed in an intensive residential care facility has led to me a lot of conversations with parents that struggle to find a faith community that will extend love and grace to them as they work to parent in a very difficult situation. I have lost count of how many times I have heard the phrase, “We used to go to church until…” and then they tell a story about how their child acted out, the church felt ill equipped to handle emotional and mental health challenges, and then the family was either told they were not welcome or were simply marginalized to the point of making regular attendance improbable.MentalFB4+buy+today

As a ministry professional, I have been encouraged by many churches who want to become trauma-informed and better equipped to understand the mental health challenges that 20-30% of their congregations and communities are dealing with. The Church is God’s representative on earth of the ideals of the Kingdom of God—God’s desire that everyone know the unconditional love of Jesus Christ and the sense of belonging and hope that we need as social beings. The pastors and churches I work with, once aware of the needs of children, youth, and adults with mental health diagnoses, desire to know, “What can we do?” As Dr. Grcevich points out, “churches have far more opportunities” for ministry “than they have resources” (p. 91). So, many churches balk at engaging in mental health ministries because it looms too large a task and too fraught with potential disaster. Their fears keep them from engaging, and it is felt that resources and energies are better spent in ministries where they feel greater competency.

Over the last six years, in working at a children’s therapeutic residential facility, I have grown in my appreciation and admiration of the good work that so many in mental health care have been doing for the “least and the lowly” that Jesus spoke of. The work in unglamorous, unheralded, and it can be difficult to know how to do what is best for your clients when the resources you have are stretched so thin. The work is messy and it is also glorious. It is a beautiful thing to see those who have been misunderstood and hurting embrace healing and hope. The mental health community is doing great work, but often feels disconnected from the work of the Church or judged by it.

Two great forces for good—the Church and Mental Health—often stand apart from one another, distrust one another, and don’t see where collaboration and partnership could result in a tremendous force for good, for healing, and for wholeness for millions of people. What is needed are those that have the wisdom to “connect the dots” and show all of us why, how, and where we can best work together!

Into this divide between these great forces for good steps the ministry of Dr. Stephen Grcevich and Key Ministry. The book, Mental Health and the Church, by Dr. Stephen Grcevich provides a much needed bridge between the healing work of therapists and mental health professionals and the wonderful work of the Church. The book lays out both the case for the Church to engage in mental health ministry as well as the practical tools and insights needed for ministering well to this underserved segment of our communities.

Part One explains the problem and why the Church should care. As Grcevich explains, over 43 million American adults have experienced at least one mental illness. When you factor in children’s mental health, a field I am well acquainted with, “more than fifty million Americans today experience at least one diagnosable mental health disorder on any given day!” (p. 19) When these individuals come to the church and are misunderstood or judged for their behavior as not being spiritual enough, they simply leave the church and don’t return (21).

Mental illness is stigmatized in many churches the way other disabilities are not, and because it applies to such a wide range of conditions it can be hard to know how to help (29). As Grcevich explains, the Church hasn’t “had a commonly accepted ministry model for mental health outreach and inclusion” (29). As a result, the “customs and practices for gathering together in worship and the environments we create in ministry” often “perpetuate disability” (44). What I believe the author means by this is that the Church can retraumatize people when they come to us with a legitimate health concern—having a chemical imbalance in your brain is no difference than having a physical imbalance elsewhere in your body—and are treated with a lack of compassion and understanding, they are not only made to suffer with their initial ailment but also shamed for that suffering!MEntal-FB1

So, what is the Church to do? If there is a lack of resources and a plethora of ministry opportunities, why should a church be concerned about mental health ministry? The wonderful news is that the best thing you could do, and your church could do for those 50 million people experiencing a mental health issue is to be there for them and seek to understand. As Grcevich explains, “every church can do something to welcome families impacted by disability—including mental illness” (46).

This is where Part Two of the book comes in—the practical insights that are needed for any church looking to establish a mental health ministry. Here are a few key insights from the book:

  • An essential first step will be for church leadership to “acknowledge assumptions” we make about the social interactions that going into “conduct or social interaction” at church and deepening their understanding of how mental health issues impact those interactions for many people (53).
  • Those with mental health disabilities don’t want to be singled out or have attention drawn to their disabilities (56). “Mental health inclusion is best understood as a mind-set for doing ministry rather than a ‘program’ for ministry” (89).
  • Avoid shaming parents for the behaviors of their kids when trauma or a serious emotional or behavior condition exists (62).
  • “Any mental health inclusion initiative is doomed to failure without the unequivocal support of your senior pastor” (90).
  • For those with ADHD or sensory issues, churches will have to look at the assumptions they have made about what will appeal to children and youth (loud music, busy bulletin boards, bright colors) and consult those in the community who work with this population of young people on a regular basis (99).
  • Digital ministry is not only great for outreach, it can help those who have anxiety issues become acquainted with your church and ministry expectations prior to a visit in person (107).
  • The benevolence ministries of the church (financial assistance, meals brought to families, visitation) should also extend to those with hidden disabilities (109). Chief among the practical ministry needs for mental health inclusion is simply a “ministry of presence” (115).
  • Dr. Grcevich suggests the resources available through organizations like the Mental Health Grace Alliance ( as well as the suggestions for mental health liaisons from Outside In Ministries ( Those with expertise in mental health ministries can help answer specific questions that will arise in ministry.
  • Children with emotional and mental health issues are going to struggle with transitions (144). Thinking through how to shepherd a child or youth through the transitions that occur during a worship service or youth ministry will be paramount to a successful experience.
  • Lighting, flooring, and window treatments can be key elements in a hospitable environment for those with sensory issues. The book does an excellent job of outlining the questions you will need to ask when it comes to decorating and designing a space to be inclusive for all (154-156).

Finally, I must say that I love this book because it is so gospel-centered and connects a mental health outreach and inclusion strategy to the most basic ideals of the church. If we are to be a “going and making disciples” sort of community, we must consider the needs of those we are going to and being sent to! It’s not about what meets our needs and the things that don’t bother us and we think shouldn’t be a big deal. As long as the Church holds that attitude, we run the risk of turning a blind eye to the bullying in our midst (170).

The book is unashamedly relational in its approach to meeting the needs of those with emotional and mental health needs, emphasizing the need to befriend and spend time with people rather than simply viewing church as a service which is meant to meet our needs (172). As a foster and adoptive parent, I appreciated Dr. Grcevich’s challenge to those churches that champion adoption or foster care ministries without also having a mental health inclusion plan; he states, “I believe it’s unchristian for churches to promote adoption and foster care ministries without committing to support them at every point in their journey” (187).

Only purchase this book if you plan on being challenged, excited, and inspired to make a difference in the lives of a vastly underserved segment of your community. In it you’ll get both the biblical basis for and the practical implications of starting a mental health inclusion team.

Mar 02

Thank you for partnering with Intermountain!

As Spring nears, we are excited to enter a new chapter within the spiritual and cultural care of children on our residential campus in Helena. Van Orsdel Commons will provide a permanent space for the chaplain’s program and related activities. We hope your 2018 plans will include a trip to 500 South Lamborn to come see this wonderful new facility!


Chaplain Chris Haughee

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Feb 25

“Transaction or Transformation?” An object lesson for Lent, Week 3

I hope your Lenten season is going well, and that you and your church families are growing closer to the Lord as we all prepare for the coming of Easter. The lesson for the third week in Lent touches upon a theme, and a temptation, that I know I need instruction in order to avoid. Because SO much of our culture has been absorbed into thinking of things and experiences in terms of transactions, it is easy to view people and relationships in that way, too. I hope the following lesson blesses you this coming week.


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Lent, Week 3: “Transaction or Transformation”

Objects needed: a pile of self-help books, brochures, especially if you can find some that say “3 quick steps to…,” advertisements, magazines… whatever you can get your hands on that suggest a “transaction” that makes things better for you without much effort.

Theme/Main Idea: When it comes to a relationship with God, it is always tempting to turn the relationship into a transaction. Transformation is harder and takes longer, so of course we want to shorten it and make it easier. The problem is that the transaction is a trap and we start to bargain with God. We wonder how many sacrifices we can make until God will bless us. Jesus cleared the temple so we could see that God wants (and we need) transformation and not a transaction.


“Good morning! How are you this morning? Are you filling up your change cans at home or in your Sunday school class? I sure hope so! It makes a big difference in the lives of the children at Intermountain. We’re already in our third week of Lent and today we come to one of the more surprising stories in the Bible about Jesus. But, before I get into that, I am wondering if you can guess what story I am talking about if I show you my items for today’s object lesson?

[take brochures, magazines with advertisements, self-help books, etc. out and show the kids… you might need to play it up a little by reading some of the titles or advertisements and talk about how you just need to read that article or buy that item and everything will be better!]

So… any guesses as to what story about Jesus I am referring to? [kids guess] All great guesses. I am thinking that the most surprising story about Jesus is the one we come to today in the gospel lesson where Jesus comes into the temple and clears out the money changers and those selling animals for sacrifice. When you read the story, it seems like Jesus is really upset! Why do you think Jesus acted this way?

[give children time to respond]

Well, I’d like to share some ideas with you about why I think Jesus might have been so upset. Do you know what a transaction is? No? It’s where I give you something and you give me something back. Most often, we think about transactions that involve money… you know, buying stuff. I want a candy bar, so I go to the store and I give them 79 cents for a Snickers bar. They get my money, I get the candy bar… we both go away happy. At least we’re happy for that moment.

Now, what happens when we start thinking about our relationship with God as a form of transaction? I pray and I hope God gives me stuff. I give money to the church, so I want to have a say in how the leaders of the church spend “my” money.

I want something really bad, even a good thing—like a parent, friend, or grandparent healed from a yucky illness—so I promise God that if he does that thing for me, I’ll do something in return… a transaction. God gets something… right?… and I get something I want in return.

That’s how it should work, don’t you think?!

[hopefully, some of the kids disagree and show it!]

Why are you guys looking at me that way? Is there something wrong with thinking about our relationship with God this way? Yes, and I think Jesus has a problem with us viewing God as the great big shopping mall in the sky. God wants a relationship with us, and wants us to pray to him about everything… not just when we want something.

When we pray this way and treat God like a friend and not a vending machine, something happens to us. We are transformed. We experience God’s love that is bigger than anything we could have asked for in the first place. We can’t buy it, and God isn’t selling it. It’s a gift, and it’s free.

Let’s pray:

God, thank you for your transforming love. Correct us when we are tempted to think we can earn your love or buy our happiness with money or good deeds. Jesus, just as you cleared out the temple, clear out our hearts. Make us clean and new. The only transaction we are interested in is accepting your love and grace, freely given to us this day and always. In the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, we pray. Amen.

Key Text: John 2:13-22 (NIV)

Jesus Clears the Temple Courts

13 When it was almost time for the Jewish Passover, Jesus went up to Jerusalem. 14 In the temple courts he found people selling cattle, sheep and doves, and others sitting at tables exchanging money. 15 So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple courts, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables. 16 To those who sold doves he said, “Get these out of here! Stop turning my Father’s house into a market!” 17 His disciples remembered that it is written: “Zeal for your house will consume me.”

18 The Jews then responded to him, “What sign can you show us to prove your authority to do all this?”

19 Jesus answered them, “Destroy this temple, and I will raise it again in three days.”

20 They replied, “It has taken forty-six years to build this temple, and you are going to raise it in three days?” 21 But the temple he had spoken of was his body. 22 After he was raised from the dead, his disciples recalled what he had said. Then they believed the scripture and the words that Jesus had spoken.

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